Wednesday, 29 May 2013

A5: S9 - Pining for the Past Yet So Eager For The Future

I don't really have any clue as to why, but ever since I was younger, I've always had a fascination with melting candles into the top of wine bottles.

It's probably some subconscious thing which wove itself into my mind from watching things like Lady and the Tramp as a child, but I've always thought it to be one of the most beautiful-looking things. Simple, rustic, and the way the light glows behind the green glass as the bottles are stacked in front of one another... it's magical.

I've amassed quite the collection, and my job in an Italian restaurant means I get to collect some spectacular looking ones. I even got given a 1960's Woolworths vodka bottle by a dear friend of mine, which  now sits proudly on my desk.

Tonight, I lit them for the first in a very long time, and even before I caught a whiff of the vanilla fragrance, I knew what it would do to me.
I felt the sickening, clammy-palmed, narrow throat feeling of the Phase yanking back all the half-forgotten memories of a time not so far away within my past. When I recall a phase it always seems to upset me, often more so, in fact, if the memory is a happy one... yet I don't think I'll ever stop Phasing. 

Suddenly my mind was hurled back to eight months prior, and I saw everything surrounded in the phase to which the candles were a key signifier of.

Firstly it was The Interesting Boys, or more precisely Jasper (Who I feel has had more of a profound impact on my personality than I'd care to admit.) I saw the first time we ever met, outside the campus pub as I hassled a stranger, the party of theirs I crashed the next day, I saw all the times I went round theirs to get drunk with them and play ridiculous music til 5am, every time they came round here for parties or just to sit and get drunk, laughing by candlelight. I saw every adventure we'd been on together; when we saw Who Framed Roger Rabbit on campus, Study Abroad Meetings, when Charles took me to Oxford University to see his brother, when we all went to Poland together... A chance friendship sparked from an accidental encounter that has resulted in some of the best moments of my entire year.

...And now it's the end of the year, and they are all graduating.

Next year, I will not have My Interesting Boys.

The candles also reminded me of the time just before Christmas.

When everyone still got along, and my days were filled with a morning Starbucks then heading off eagerly to my classes, filling my notepads with knowledge and notes that excited and inspired me, watching endless Classic Hollywood movies from the 1940's and 1950's and getting way too immersed into it all, floating through the aisles of my second home - first introduced to me by Jasper - The Fleetville Vintage Emporium, and spending way too much money on the most exquisite antiques and knick-knacks, with, of course, afternoon tea.

All of that feels a lifetime away from what my life is like now.

As I was scrolling back through my old pictures for this post/just letting myself wallow in self-piteous pining for a lost time, I found myself getting sadder and sadder and how things have changed since I started Uni this year, when it feels like no time has passed at all.

And.... what's next?

The Future, as I've always said, thrills me to the absolute core, and I cannot wait to get out there and start living the life I've always dreamed of. But moments like this completely derail me. The future, actually, is an absolutely terrifying prospect. I feel like I'm wandering into the mist with my hands out, feeling blindly in front of me.

Then I found myself thinking further back from just this year, back to the summer of silver with Ariella and Florentine, Mr X and The Holstee Manifesto.

All these memories from this year, which I am now pining for because they were so amazing, never ever would have happened, if I had just signed my name on that little slip of paper, and dropped out of University. Something which I was a hair's breadth away from doing.

That hit me like a slap in the face.

Right then, at that moment in time, my future was indecipherable, each decision hanging by a thread. I had no idea what I was doing, where I was going or if I was even doing the right thing, and no matter how hard I tried, I could not cast my minds eye into the future and see where would be best for me. So I took a chance. And the measure of just how wistful I am now, of all the beautiful and unexpected things that have happened since then, is enough for me to know that I made the right choice.

And that made me realise two things at once:

1. The future is supposed to be confusing, open-ended and full of mist - no-one is supposed to know how it all goes. That's the beauty of it. When you don't know what's going on, anything that happens is unexpected and beautiful.

2. Every time I stop to think about my position in life, it always seems as though I'm stuck in a period of longing for the past and impatiently waiting for the future, with nothing else going on at that time. But it's only then that you realise that's exactly what the 'present' is. The Present is living the future, whilst creating the past.


This year I have done the most incredible things of my entire life, and built the solid foundations of a (hopefully) very successful future, just by investing my time in curating myself. The future is not my enemy, neither need be the past. To see the full photo album of a montage of my past academic year at Uni, click on this sentence right here.



  1. Your Rolex Duplicate designer watches ended up uncover by simply Rolex Duplicate herself throughout 1983. While they spent my childhood years they hublot replica determined that they had to develop designer watches along with joined your Geneva Institution involving Watch generating throughout 1981. They determined that they would likely build a Earth Premiere every time a calendar year, which has been louis vuitton replica something zero various other enjoy agency as well as manufacturer got accomplished from the past. Throughout 1983 your generation commenced while using Tourbillon designer watches along with on-going via generally there. Throughout 2001 your Pierre Kunz name and also the cartier replica ECW name ended up presented. Your Conquistador is just about the nearly all well-known designer watches distributed currently. Your characteristics in the watch incorporate a s / s material scenario along with wedding ring, a new increase flip-style clasp, a new silver precious metal face, sapphire amazingly along with computerized activity. This is the fantastic amount of montblanc replica purpose which has been hand-crafted. Your Duplicate Rolex Duplicate designer watches would likely come up with a amazing found for virtually any person that is your current Yuletide list this specific 12 a few months. In case you have been recently looking for an innovative Rolex Duplicate watch then you certainly acknowledge your coco chanel replica price tag difference inside legitimate and also the duplicate.

  2. dự án chung cư vinhomes nguyễn trãi là một quần thể đô thị hiện đại chung cu vinhomes nguyen trai được trang bị nội thất tinh tế thiết kế vinhomes nguyễn trãi sang trọng vinhomes nguyen trai đẳng cấp kết hợp cùng tiện nghi vinhome nguyen trai cao cấp vinhomes nguyễn trãi là điểm đến lý tưởng vincom nguyen trai đầy đủ cho người tiêu dùng vincom nguyễn trãi có bán giày nam các loại giày công sở nam đẹp nhất

  3. مؤسسة مكافحة حشرات بالجبيل مع مطلع فصل الربيع وصعود معدلات الحرارة يؤدي الشأن الى التعرض الى الحشرات بشكل ملحوظ بشكل كبير ،
    افضل شركة مكافحة حشرات
    شركة مكافحة النمل الابيض بالاحساء
    شركة مكافحة حشرات بالاحساء
    شركة رش مبيدات بالاحساء