Sunday, 6 July 2014

All Hail The Silent Appreciators



I think I speak for a lot of bloggers, especially newer ones, when I say that sometimes blogging just feels like talking to a brick wall.

As any kind of creator, there is literally nothing worse than spending HOURS painstakingly crafting, photographing, editing and formatting content, only for it to be simply lost among the flurry, all your hard work seemingly ignored and unacknowledged, and you're left crestfallen as you watch all your effort go to waste.

It pretty much just super sucks.


As I mentioned in a recent post, I recently felt as thought my blog was growing and dying at a simultaneous pace - I was getting more hits than I ever had done, but less interaction, feedback and comments than way back when I'd just started.

I couldn't work out what I was doing wrong, and it made me seriously begin to question what I was doing and why I was doing it, and I got caught in a vicious cycle of doubt and insecurity.

But after some reassurance about the ups and downs of blogging from some top bloggers and the balance seemingly restoring itself, I could breathe a sigh of relief as I found myself settling back on track and enjoying blogging again.

But it wasn't until I saw a recent tweet about one of my posts, that I realised a crucial thing which I'd been completely overlooking by being so caught up in the convoluted logistics of followers, likes and feedback.


In my usual awkward way of being unbelievably grateful but not really being able to express it via tweet (for someone who's supposedly good with words, I can be really not good with words) I received a response which made me think about something I so ignorantly hadn't even really considered before.

This notion was then solidified when later that evening I received an absolutely beautiful email from a girl whose name I'd never seen before.

How was that possible? I knew all the familiar names that popped up in my comments or on Twitter, so where had this girl come from?

She'd hit the nail on the head.

Lurkers.

Silent Appreciators.

How many times had I stumbled across an incredible blog, been blown away by the content and hastily saved it to my favourites bar, eagerly checking back for new posts?

All the time.

How many times had I actually commented, emailed or tweeted to let that person know how much I loved what they were doing?

*sitcom studio audience 'ohhhhhh' sound*

Hardly ever.

Not because I don't want to, but I realised because, I myself am a silent appreciator, a sit-back-and-really-think-about-what-I've-just-read-er.

And as far as I know, these people who I so ardently look up to and appreciate might be on their last tether of feeling as though no-one cared about what they do, perhaps on the brink of giving it up. These people might be sat there feeling tired of putting so much into creating their space, only to be ignored and unacknowledged, oblivious to I, the adoring reader still poring over their posts.

There are a whole host of bloggers I can think of off the top of my head that I would genuinely be crushed if they decided to shut down their blog, yet I don't really do anything to show my support for them.

For one thing, that's going to change. My new blogging resolution is to be a hell of a lot more vocal and supportive of things which I think are brilliant. A blogger which I have serious respect admiration for is Zoe LDN, who always takes the time to support and celebrate fellow bloggers on Twitter which I massively respect.

But I think the most important thing here is to understand that just because your blog is not getting any comments or feedback, it doesn't mean you aren't making a difference. It doesn't mean that there's not someone out there who absolutely loves what you do, and silently checks back everyday to see what you're up to.

Just because you only have 50 followers, it doesn't mean than you don't have a hundred other people who religiously follow your blog, without the preface of a bloglovin' account or Twitter handle.

Even if you get just one hit a day, that single person might be totally in awe of your little world, and would be gutted if you ever gave up hope with it.

You just never know, and I think that's a pretty optimistic kind of ignorance, a far sight better than just assuming your efforts were wasted.

And I'm a firm believer that love is innately empathetic, and if you truly love what you do and it shines through with what you create, then it's not hard for other people to fall in love with your passion too. There's a bunch of blogs I follow of which aren't really my taste in clothes, music, style or whatever, but the people behind them are so curiously fascinating and exciting I find myself hooked.

All in all, I just urge you to have faith in yourself.

Ahhh I know I always make out as if I'm some all knowing guru telling everyone what to do, and probably a bit hypocritical 'cause I'm just stumbling about through life too, but.... I don't know. Maybe I'm just the internet version of this girl:




I just think that if you really believe that what you're creating is great, then I can sure as hell bet there are a load of other people out there who think that too, whether they are vocal about it or not.

The internet is known for being so sinister because you don't always know who's looking at your stuff, but you know, I think that can be a little bit wonderful too.


69 comments :

  1. Once again a brilliantly timed post as I was literally drafting this exact same topic on my blog! My last few posts have almost seemed to have fallen on deaf ears (eyes?) with hardly any comments or response. This kind of sucks when you've spent hours creating an outfit post and nobody notices it! But I agree people don't always comment or tweet...hopefully I actually have some silent appreciators somewhere!

    hellomissjordan.blogspot.co.uk xx

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    1. I firmly believe you do, in fact I know so as I am one! Much love and thank you for reading Jordan x

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  2. I absolutely love this post! I haven't been following your blog for a while, only a few weeks, but this is the first post I've commented on and I'll definitely be stopping by and commenting more now.
    There's nothing better than spreading the blogging positivity and love.

    Lucy xx
    queenofcontemporary.com

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    1. Thank you Lucy! I think it's so easy to forget to comment, even if you're super impressed by a post, but I'm sure all bloggers can confirm that every single comment is worthwhile and will bring a smile to the creators face! Thank you for yours :) x

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  3. I think sometimes people run out of time, I make a huge amount of effort to comment on blogs, I comment on them every day just because I know how much effort people put in to writing them. It takes up hours of my time though. Trying to write and maintain my own blog and then comment on other peoples literally takes up my entire evening. I don't mind doing it, I LOVE blogging but it is impossible to comment on every blog I read as much as I'd love to.

    Chloe x
    newgirlintoon.co.uk

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    1. Yeah it can be so time consuming, but it sounds like you're definitely doing the right thing! I've just realised that I never really show love to those who deserve it, and I think a few comments here and there for those who deserve it will make all the difference to other people's confidence! x

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  4. This is such an encouraging post! I'm one of those 50 follower blogs, but I keep telling myself I've got plenty of friends who keep up with my blog but don't use bloglovin or twitter. I try hard to comment on other blogs but sometimes it's a matter of feeling like I have nothing interesting to add. I'll try harder in future just to let people know that I enjoyed reading a post, even if I have nothing much to add to the topic! Really glad you wrote this post it's so positive!

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  5. I love this. I try and comment on as many blogs as I can but I find that, especially with thought-provoking posts like this one (and a lot of yours actually!) I want to take time to think about what I've read, to let it all sink in and then I forget to come back and comment.

    I'm going to try and make more of an effort now after this. But I just wanted to let you know! :) xx

    Little Miss Katy | UK Lifestyle & Fashion

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  6. I read so many blogs on my phone but then commenting in painfully slow on there so I end up not commenting telling them how much I enjoyed their post or something similar. When I'm on my laptop I try and comment on all the posts I read as I love reading comments people post on my blog.

    This is a great post, very true.

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  7. Ok, you get my vote.

    Blogging has kind of been fed to the maws of flashier social media and I've strayed from the blogophere like a zealot fired yonder from a catapult.

    Fool, moi.

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  8. Ouch. I am a lurker for the most part, especially when I'm at someone else's blog that I've never had conversations with before, but I try to leave a note (however stupid it may sound) to at least let the blogger know that I admired her work.

    Being a blogger is a completely different story. I seldom receive comments on my blog, and when I do, these are mostly from friends I've known for a long time. Lately I've been receiving comments from bloggers alike, and it makes my heart flutter. I always see to it that I respond to their comments no matter how short and simple they are just to let them know that I read them, and that I appreciate them stopping by.

    Jae

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  9. I'm one of the silent lurkers too!! I absolutely adore your blog, and never miss a post. But I'm like you - I will think about what you have written, and think to myself that I will comment once I have found the right words - and the it doesn't happen.
    Please, don't ever stop writing and creating and blogging!!! I love your work so much.
    xo Miriam

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    1. Thank you so much for reading Miriam! Don't worry, I have no plans to give up haha thank you for your support :D x

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  10. You've inspired me to be less lurker more vocal liker! I literally never comment or tweet or engage with bloggers even when I love their content...I guess like you say about bloggers I feel my comment will be lost among the masses (especially when it's just a "great post" comment but then I know how much I love it when someone comments on mine. I will vow to do my best to always leave a comment or positive tweet when I enjoy reading something as you say...I would be gutted if a lot of the blogs I read shut down because they felt no-one was reading them. Well written Katie!

    Harriet x
    www.haveyouheardthelatest.wordpress.com

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    1. I'm exactly the same! Then I wonder why I get down if I don't get many comments on a post - it all swings in roundabouts! Thanks so much for reading :) x

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  11. Another post well said. I was reading a post by a blogger I follow the other day where she said that it 'wasn't on' that people were no longer commenting on posts as much and we needed to make more of an effort. This is probably just me being typically harsh (as always) but it just made her sound like a little bitch. Its so true that so many people read these posts that don't comment because they're shy/forget/dont have a bloglovin or gfc account. Most of the people that tell me they like my blog and read it are the ones that don't have an account so just read my links off facebook. Anyway its nice to see something positive on the subject.

    From a not so much Lurker :)

    xx

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  12. I'm a terrible lurker, and I think it's about time that I told you how much I enjoy reading your blog Katie, it's a real breath of fresh air and unlike any other blog that I follow. Often, I read a post and feel like I don't have anything constructive to say about it, but even a "I loved reading this" is better than nothing.

    Ann x
    Prattle and Froth

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    1. Ahhhh this is the best ever, thank you so much Annatha! You've put the biggest smile on my face :) x

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  13. absolutely love it beaut x

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  14. Another great post! Love reading your blog!
    Kirsty x

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  15. I've been reading your blog from literally the beginning and I may have commented once? I can't remember if I actually sent it. I would be devastated if you stopped. I love your philosophical and unique outlook on life and I really appreciate your posts, they give me something to think about and muse over!! Keep blogging!!

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    1. This is such a wonderful comment and so exciting to know that you've stuck around for so long! Agh this is the best, thank you so much for supporting me from the start :) x

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  16. I love this post :) It really made me think about how many times I've poured over my blog statistics and follower count on Bloglovin', and how I never really considered readers would save blogs to their bookmark bar etc.

    Thank you for the positivity - it's inspiring :)

    Much love,
    Jennifer x

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  17. Funnily enough, I came to your blog today with the sole purpose of commenting for the first time, only to find this post! Now I'm doubly glad I decided to do so.

    I emailed you a while back to tell you how inspired I was after finding your blog through one of your youtube videos. Reading your beautifully written thoughts and philosophies helped reinforce the things that I'd been feeling for so long, and truly helped me feel a lot less crazy and alone.

    The reason I'm commenting today is to tell you that you've inspired me in yet another way. I've decided to create my own blog, because I want to share my travel stories and encourage others to adventure and explore the world. My blog would never have come to be if it weren't for you, and it would mean the world to me if you could take a look and let me know what you think!

    Anyway, thank you a million times over for doing what you do. And thank you for responding to my email and just for being a genuinely nice, caring person. And last but not least, just know that I've been one of the "lurkers" for the past few months, but that doesn't mean I've been any less inspired by or grateful for your words!

    xo Katie

    http://a-different-sun.blogspot.com

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    1. oh Katie! I commented on your posts, I really, really liked your blog :)
      Thank you so much for your constant support and motivation, I don't really know how to put my thanks into words, you lovely lady x

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  18. LOVE this post. I think about this a lot too actually which is why I am trying so hard to make an effort in commenting more on blogs that I really love. Such a good post and your blog is really amazing! X
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  19. I have been on here since the beginning been a hell of ride. Katie im sure there will be more adventures along the way remember lots of people here that will support you. xxx take care of you self

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  20. I just found you and you are the best!

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  21. A really lovely read as I have totally been feeling like this recently!! xxx

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  22. Hey - I don't think I've ever commented on the blog of someone I don't personally know before, but it seems fitting that my first time would be on a post about the very topic of "silent lurkers." Anyways, I found your blog via YouTube as I was searching for ukulele covers earlier this week and, being a complete blogging novice, had never heard of Bloglovin until I saw it on your sidebar. Another few days later, I decided to make my own account on it! I've been quietly blogging for a while now (just for myself/my friends), but this recent introduction to the real blogosphere has inspired me to take it to the next level. I hate to sound like I'm advertising (I just don't want to feel like I'm "talking to a brick wall" anymore!), but it would mean so much to me if you checked out my blog -- and maybe even follow it if you like it. In any case, keep up the amazing writing -- I look forward to reading more!! :)

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  23. I actually only found your blog last night, on a 'recommended for you' email from Bloglovin'. I'm ashamed to say that quite often I don't even read those emails but last night I decided to check all of the blogs out and I'm so glad I did.
    I'm new to the world of blogging, and watching my readership slowly increase over the last four weeks has been fantastic - sometimes I do feel like I'm blogging to nobody as I see all these long established blogs with thousands of followers, but then I remind myself that actually it doesn't matter how many followers you have and how many page views you get as long as you enjoy what you're doing.
    This post was both inspiring and encouraging and I'll certainly be checking back every day to read your latest offerings!

    Lucy-J xo
    www.lucyjloves.blogspot.com

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  24. Great read! I haven't been blogging for long but when I do, I spend ages (as you said) making sure everything is written correctly and all the images look the way I want them to and sometimes there are posts you think are going to get a lot of feedback and then they don't, which makes you question everything all over again and I find it really hard to keep that motivation going.

    This post hit the nail on the head and I've book marked it for future moments where I too feel like I am talking to a wall.

    Love love love xx
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    Thank you so much for your constant support and motivation, I don't really know how to put my thanks into words, you lovely lady.
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